Am I real?

[David Alan Douglas]

Now I am David Douglas. My father was a narcissist and carried out his inadequacies violently against my Mother.  I changed my name to her name, Douglas, out of respect for her (and because I hated hearing and seeing his name added to mine because it reminded me of the violent him).  My Mother told me many stories about the Douglas' and described to me how she was directly descended to our ancestors.  Am I really a Douglas?  Am I an "illegitimate" Douglas?  Can I hold high the Douglas colours as my own?  Any comments?

[David Alan Douglas]

Thanks.

Your reply kind of completes me as a Douglas.

And it gives me pride.

[William Douglas]

Yes! You are real!
The maternal side of the family is important - especially when it is Douglas.